1. Forget who you think you are. You aren't lazy, shy, a coward, or any other label that your family stuck on you with super glue. Really, you aren't. You are a spirit designed with infinite possibility. You can do anything. You can be anyone you want at any given moment, as long as you remain true to your core values and beliefs.
I figured this out at my father's funeral, when I stood up in front of everyone to read a note I had written to him. For years I had convinced myself I wasn't a public speaker. That I was shy. That I didn't have the guts or the skill to speak publicly. But I heard my dad's voice in my ear, saying "Get on up there; you can do it," and his hand on the small of my back pushing me forward. It doesn't matter that I had taken a Xanax twenty minutes earlier. I would have done it anyway. All I'm saying is that if you need to take drugs to reinvent yourself, go ahead. Okay, I'm kidding. Really. Don't take drugs. Drugs are bad.
2. Be enthusiastic. Pick one thing to be enthused about, even if it's small. Even if it's your job. Be a dork about it if you must (see #3), but I promise you that your enthusiasm will spread to others, and to other areas of your life. If you've ever seen enthusiasm at play in someone else, you know what I mean.
3. Stop worrying about what other people think. Guess what? They aren't thinking at all. And usually, when people of limited growth gossip, what they're really saying is I have so many personal flaws that I can't do anything but talk about other people.
4. Write your goals on paper. If you want to do one nice thing for someone else each day, write it down. If you want to write a screenplay, pencil it in. If you want to rid the world (or just the cabinet over your left shoulder) of cobwebs, write it down. Can I suggest a Moleskine? You can find these little beauties at Barnes and Noble (and elsewhere) and they are now available in a variety of colors and sizes, making them very convenient to carry. I've been buying them for years, but this time I chose red.
5. Small things can be successes, too. Every time you do something right, or get a little closer to one of your big goals, you gain confidence. Find something you're good at, and become better. Find something you've never tried but would like to, and learn everything you can about it. Invest in yourself.
Remember when you were a child, and you wanted to be a ballerina, or a fire fighter, or an astronaut? Figure out how to finally do it. There are ways. If you can't find a way, make one.
8 comments:
You are inspiring me (yet again!)
I know its not a funny subject, but I had to chuckle about the Xanax. Hey, I say whatever works for ya!
And #3? I need to remind myself of that EVERY. SINGLE. DAY. Not only worrying about what others think of me, but what I think of others. Which is why one of my resolutions is to be more accepting and kind.
Well, if I remember correctly, it's hard to be accepting and kind toward some of the people you deal with at your job. But it's a good training ground.
That’s nonsense. Of course 2009 is divisible by 3. I think you mean ‘not integrally divisible by 3’. It’s this kind of sloppy expression that has led to the decay in modern society.
I like the ‘You can do anything’ line though. I always had the suspicion I could really fly – other than vertically downwards, I mean – but never had the courage to try. I’m just heading for that window ledge now to give it a go.
If you don’t hear from me again, other than a small piece in a newspaper ‘Man dies in death plunge – American woman named in Moleskine notebook held responsible’ then you’ll know I failed you.
hahaha! Simon, my life is now complete. Here is someone to correct my sloppiness. Good to see you here.
P.S. I hope you didn't take the plunge.
Hey, has anyone seen Simon lately?
Good post there, Moiragossamauritonella.
VERY funny.
I, for one, trust in Simon's intelligence. He would at least try to manufacture some sort of wing thingies before he tried jumping.
I love this post Maurita. In a fuzzy kind of way I have been thinking this....this is my season of reinvention...but you lay out the guidelines so succinctly.
Thanks, anya. I was reading something the other day that said most of us develop what we believe is our personality while we're in junior high, and to continue being the person a teenager invented is just ridiculous.
Reinvention can be a GOOD thing.
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